We all have a voice in our heads. You know the one that chats along to you during the day, passing comments on what is happening around you, convincing you to do something (or not).
If you pay attention to what this voice is saying, really pay attention, you might notice that what it is saying is not always very kind and often not very helpful. And yet, we listen to this voice as if it always speaks the truth.
But it doesn’t.
It tells us stories. Some of them are true, many are not. Some of them are helpful, many of them are not.
However, you have the power to start changing these stories and have your inner voice start working for you rather than against you.
Here is a great way to get started:
Step 1: For the next 3 days jot down in a notebook all the unhelpful or unkind messages you hear your inner voice saying. Don’t pass any judgement on them, don’t feel weird or embarrassed by what you actually notice. Everyone has these kinds of thoughts … not just you.
Step 2: After 3 days take some time to reflect on what you have written down. What do you notice? Are there common themes?
Step 3: Now look at each thought you listed – consider of there is a more helpful or kind thought you could replace it with?
For example … I might notice my inner voice saying “I’m too tired to go for a run today” … that isn’t going to help me get fit. A more helpful thought would be “I am tired today but if I go for a short run it will help energise me”.
Step 4: the next time you notice one of those unhelpful thoughts popping into your mind, stop, take a breathe, and ask yourself if there is something more helpful you could say instead.
This may feel challenging at first, after all you have been carrying these unhelpful thoughts around for a long time. It will take time and patience to start a new inner conversation but it is well worth giving it a go!