If you could go back and tell yourself three things at the start of your motherhood journey what would they be? For me they would be: 1. ASK FOR HELP Ask sooner. Ask more often. Ask without guilt or judgement. When someone offers help, just say YES. 2. YOU DON’T HAVE TO…
The other day I was trying to explain to my husband what the mental load in my life is like, and why sometimes it becomes overwhelming. I was explaining that not only do I need to keep track of all my own ‘stuff’ I am keeping track of all the little things that 4 other…
As mother’s we spend a huge amount of time and energy caring for the well being and needs of our family, often neglecting to take care of our own needs along the way. This was on my mind this week as I finally made it to the dentist for the first time since moving to…
These school holidays we headed away for a few days to spend some time by some stunning beaches. Everyone we met said to us “You live on Waiheke Island, why on earth would you leave and come here for your holiday?” It is true, we live on an island with…
A week from now I will be boarding a plane to Fiji. Without children. Sounds pretty awesome doesn’t it! A few weeks ago I won a prize through New Zealand Herald Travel to take part in the inaugural Ocean Swim Fiji event. The ironic thing is that reason I won is also exactly the reason…
Motherhood. Sleep. These things really don’t go together … ‘Sleep when your baby sleeps’ … I was never good at that … I remember when my first baby was born how I tussled within myself about my sleep deprivation. I struggled to simply be accepting of the relentless calls through the night. Fortunately I found…
A friend of mine recently had her first baby. As I watch her enter the steep learning curve of motherhood it has given me a chance to reflect on how much I have learned and grown over the past 10 years. Reading books has been a very important part of how I learn new things….
This year is the first year I have had three children at school. On one hand this is wonderful and freeing for me but on the other hand the number of things I need to keep track of and juggle has increased. I have shared before some of the key ways I keep my family…
I have noticed in recent months that my self care routines around exercise have fallen away. I have become swallowed up by the juggle of family life and little by little my space for myself has been let go of. I know this happens from time to time, self care is a constant process and…
Have you ever offered help to another Mum? I am sure you have. One thing I have noticed in my journey as a mother and life coach is how difficult it is for many mums to accept a gesture of help and support. It makes them uncomfortable to to receive support when they may not…